Every Moment is a Resolution

I’m not a winter person. By any means. Never have been and never will be. But, boy do I love this time of year solely because December always holds such magic and power. Sure, it can be somewhat chaotic as we prepare for holiday gatherings and wrap up loose ends before the new year, but you have to admit, the air is charged with this intoxicating energy. Everyone’s looking toward the future and making resolutions; deciding how they want to show up in 2018. The coming new year is so shiny and pristine, completely untarnished and packaged with endless possibilities. Regardless of what happened during the past year, you’re now given a brand new, fresh year. It’s a great time to reflect, focus and center yourself before the coming year. While I love this time of year and am giddy with anticipation for what 2018 might bring, I just want to reiterate that you can have this restart sensation at any time.

We’ve all been there – we begin January feeling extra empowered and ready to make this THE year! This is the year that everything we’ve ever envisioned will happen and it will be stupendous! We all charge into the year determined to uphold every resolution! And maybe we’ll even find the cure for the common cold while we’re at it! Who knows! We’re unstoppable and ready to take on the year!

But inevitably, our superpower energy starts to wane. We might fall off the proverbial wagon. Maybe other unforeseen and uncontrollable circumstances come into effect. Or the life we envision for ourselves may require more patience and perseverance than initially anticipated. Whatever the case may be, the superpower energy that launched the new year dissipates and it becomes a struggle to find more.

Allow me to let you in on a little secret: Despite the societal emphasis that this power to restart occurs only once per year, remember that within every single moment YOU have the opportunity to redirect and reset as you need or desire. Yep. YOU. You have to ability to change course or get back on course whenever you like. It’s all you, my friend.

Allow yourself to feel this invigorating charge of the coming year and let it propel you into the new year, but remember to carry this unstoppable energy through to every single minute of 2018. The seasons will change and before we know it 2018 will be well underway. Understand that not only are you able to carry this energy with you constantly, but you are able to create this “new year sensation” for yourself any time. You have everything you need within you to have the most fantastic year and can recreate the energy you have at the cusp of 2018 for yourself every moment. You simply have to recognize this ability within yourself and pledge to recommit to your new year intentions multiple times throughout the year. Heck, sometimes you’ll have to recommit multiple times throughout the day. And trust me, that is A-OK.

I like to write (obviously) and I write down everything and anything I want to bring into my life. I tend to write the most at the end and beginning of the year as I evaluate my past year and define how I want to show up in the coming year. As I wrote out my vision and resolutions for 2018 I wrote this reminder for myself:

Resolution Quote

This mantra allows me to forgive myself when I don’t feel like things are working out. This mantra gives me an energy boost when I feel my drive begin to slow. This mantra reminds me to listen to myself and determine my next best move to keep moving forward and continue creating the best life for myself.

If this helps you, feel free to borrow it. Print it out and place it somewhere you’ll see it whenever you may need the reminder. Or use this as a starting point – modify it, make it your own. Write whatever suits you to remind yourself it doesn’t need to be January 1 for you to kick start your life.

Be good to yourself & cheers to the most magical 2018!

Thank you for being kind

It was early morning and I was leaving my apartment for the day, exiting down the back, outdoor stairwell of my building. When I reached the gate at the bottom, a woman, a fellow tenant, was on her way inside after taking her dog out for a morning walk. We met facing each other on opposite sides of the gate. We both moved away from the door simultaneously as if to allow the other to pass first and then both stepped forward to walk through when we realized the other would wait for us…I’m sure you’ve done this dance before with another stranger –  “After you.” “No, please, after you.” You get the picture.

We chuckled at our mirrored movements. I went through the gate first and exchanged simple pleasantries with the lady – said good morning, remarked on the beautiful, sunny day ahead, petted her dog, wished her a good day and went along my way.

As I’m walking through the back parking lot toward the blue line station, I hear the woman shout after me, somewhat timidly yet sincerely:

“Thank you for being kind to me!”

My footsteps slowed and I glanced back over my shoulder to ensure she was speaking to me. Sure enough, she was looking directly at me and waving. Caught off guard, I paused for a moment before waving back and shouting “Of course!”

I was baffled. She thanked me for being kind? It was simply small talk…

Our whole interaction lasted probably less than three minutes. To me, it wasn’t a big deal, to me it was second nature. But this brief, simple, friendly conversation obviously made an impact. Her response reminded me that for some, perhaps many, common courtesies and kindness are a rare occurrence.

As I recall this particular morning, I realize this isn’t the first time someone thanked me for being kind. It’s actually happened quite a few times before. Often the circumstances are generally the same in the sense that there’s nothing exceptional about the scenario or the act of kindness. The giver of the kindness mentally chalks it up to “Well, it’s what anyone else would have done.” But in today’s world I feel that statement is tested constantly. Especially when you consider how recipients of kindness react, like the lady in my building. There’s something about the way these individuals express their gratitude for the kindness they’re shown that stops you in your tracks. Something in the expression on their face and the tone of their voice that conveys that kindness is not extended to them often.

I wish I were writing with the knowledge that kindness is extended to everyone, without question and without hesitation, and although I’m an optimist I’m certainly not oblivious. I understand that kindness is currently not as prevalent of a force in our world as it ought. It doesn’t take a genius to deduct that we’ve lost something along the way. While I acknowledge that truth and accept it for what it currently is, I also believe that what’s lost can be found. I believe that kindness can make a comeback. Perhaps more importantly, it needs to make a comeback.

I know, I’m sounding a bit like a hippie, and no, I’m not asking for everyone to join hands and sing “Kumbaya.” That’s way too cheesy, even for me.

But what I am asking, better yet challenging you readers to do is to offer just a bit more kindness to those around you. It doesn’t need to be grand gestures, sometimes less can definitely mean more.

So.

I challenge you to glance up from your ever-so-captivating phone as you walk down the street and say “Hello” when you pass another person. I challenge you to say “Pardon me” when navigating your way through a crowd. I challenge you to truly listen when someone speaks to you. I challenge you to say “Hi, how are you?” and mean it; be invested in hearing the response. I challenge you to say “thank you” to your bus driver. I challenge you to help a mother lift her baby stroller over a curb or stair. I challenge you to hold the door. I challenge you to leave the closer parking space for another driver. I challenge you to send a thank you note. I challenge you to introduce yourself to your new neighbor…

I challenge you to allow your kindness to make an impact on someone else.

You never know, you may be the only glimmer of kindness someone sees all day.

 

Thank you for being kind.

 

“Be the change you wish to see in the world” – Ghandi